Things I wish I’d known

As a first time mum there’s so many things we aren’t told.

Things that can make or break those early motherhood years. And from there make or break our whole motherhood journey.

So much of what is natural for babies and mums we have shied away from. Yet, animals know what to do to keep their babies safe and secure.

First, babies are tiny mammals. Mammals are by nature cared for by mum until they wean. Weaning naturally occurs when milk teeth fall out and adult teeth come in. In human babies this starts on average at age 6. That is, starts! It continues for several years, Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying small humans should nurse until they have lost all baby teeth. However, they do do well if they have some high level of attachment to primary caregivers until that time.

That may look like nursing until the first milk teeth are lost. It may look like co-sleeping until the 6 year molars erupt, or even longer. It may look like needing company to fall asleep until they reach double figures. It can also look like needing additional support at times right up to and beyond puberty kicking in.

Even after this when you look at mammals of other species family groups rest together right up until they choose mates and start families of their own.

Again I am not saying here that our teenage humans should be sharing rooms with mum and dad, or even older siblings, but attached immature humans do well when they know they have mum, dad or primary caregiver close should they feel vulnerable or anxious.

This is a whole big thing I talk about in the You Tube video I have recently shared on my Indigosky Vlog channel. You can watch the full thing over there.